Aspire Indiana has recently listed its cultural values: People, Integrity, Laughter, Learning, Accountability and Relationships. I’m curious how each one of us is intentionally living out these values in our daily lives at Aspire. Some days, I am spot on and feel great! Other days, I bomb and feel awful about my behavior. But what feels right is that I am aware of this and making deliberate changes to improve each day!
One value I have been giving attention to recently is the value of People. At Aspire we’ve defined the value of People as ‘passionately believing in people and embracing diversity.’ So how do I demonstrate this? There are two gifts I have that allow me to do this intentionally:
- Inclusion: I have the gift of needing others! I rarely speak authoritatively, as if I know all there is to know about a subject. Rather, I solicit input from others and include them in decision-making, especially for the most important decisions!
- Ambivalence: I have the gift of looking good in grey! When it comes to ideas, brainstorming, problem-solving and team-work, tolerance is essential and ambivalence is more than OK. Polarized, black and white thinking is the active refusal to hold two opposing views at the same time. Contradictions can and do exist comfortably together.
Without intending to do so our language can set up conflicts within ourselves and between ourselves in the workplace. The word, “but” is so prevalent! Start paying attention to how many times in your own self-talk or team discussions you hear the word, “but.” “I have so many clients to see, BUT I have to get paperwork done.” “I know my boss wants me finish this project, BUT I need to leave early this week.”
What would happen if we substituted the word, “but” with “and?” “I have so many clients to see, AND I have to get paperwork done.” “I know my boss wants me to finish this project, AND I need to leave early this week.” The word, “but” sets up a conflict where there is only one solution. The word, “and” allows your mind to problem solve for both!
It takes deliberate, intentional action to lend an “and” and not be a “but!” Let’s all start to be aware of the power of our language! Take a look:
Whether you are part of the Aspire work family or not, I’m curious about how you value the co-workers in your life, the ones that hold your same ideas AND those that differ from you. Let me know by commenting on this blog!